A Letter to My Daughters(s)…

A Letter To My Daughter

My sweetest daughter,

This Mother’s Day I thought I would write a letter to you, as I don’t tell you nearly enough just how much I love you. For all my life I’ve known I wanted to be a mother. When I found out I was pregnant with you, a lifetime of hopes and dreams was finally realized. And the moment you were born my life was forever changed. I knew at that moment, exactly what love at first sight truly meant. And in that instant I knew that I would protect you with my life above all else. I wanted to teach you how to become a strong, healthy, and independent woman. 

Raising you in those early days was definitely not easy. You taught me the very definition of patience. I learned the ways of being a baby whisperer because of you. You constantly screamed. You  loved to be held constantly and you never wanted to be away from me (and I never wanted to be away from you). I remember the days that you would go all day without eating, when I was away at work. And when I came home, you were more than happy to be held in my arms the rest of the day and through the night. 

Never Doubt Your Own Value

As you become older, protecting you isn’t that easy. I worry about you all the time! Your safety as you find your freedoms is a huge concern. I worry about the friends you make, and how they treat you. I worry about your successes and your failures in life. As you embark upon the teen years, I worry about how the boys will treat you. You have to be aware that not every boy will respect you. There will be boys out there who think you owe them something. Don’t ever think for a second that is true. Above all else you have to respect yourself.  When you do that, others will naturally respect you. 

You Deserve Every Chance to Pursue Your Dreams

“To all the little girls who are watching, never doubt that you are valuable and powerful and deserving of every chance and opportunity in the world to pursue and achieve your own dreams.” —Hillary Clinton in her 2016 concession speech

When I first heard these words, they brought tears to my eyes. The world is not a kind place to strong women. To be a strong woman in a man’s world is by many considered to be a handicap. A strong woman will be called a b***h or a nasty gal. Don’t ever believe them, as anyone who says that is the one with issues. People will tell you that you can’t do something, and nothing could be further from the truth. You really can have anything you want in life, as long as you are willing to work hard for it. Follow your bliss, as then it won’t even seem like work. At the same time, I don’t want you to expect anything from anyone, as those types of expectations will lead to chronic disappointment. But do know I will always be there to love you and support your dreams, as that is my job as your Mom. My love for you is unconditional. 

Always Know Your Own Self Worth

Successful women seem to inherently know their own self worth. When I was younger, I certainly didn’t know mine though. My fear of failure drove me to constantly work hard to ensure my own future, and for that of my children. When it came to relationships, I was often disappointed when others didn’t value me. I don’t want you to go through that. It is hard enough when there are people out there who will tell you that you are too “fat”, “ugly”, or “old” to be worth anything. There will likely be friends who will betray your trust. If that ever does happen, please realize that the issue is with “them” and has absolutely nothing to do with you. Now that doesn’t mean you should try and learn from honest constructive criticism. But learn to be wise enough to distinguish between the two. When you are confident in yourself, you will learn from honest critiques, and become an even better version of yourself.

Remember These Three Things

If nothing else, I want you to remember these three things:

Always strive to be the best version of yourself – Put 110% into everything you do. Find what you are passionate about and do your absolute best. Being that vest version of yourself means always being considerate of others too. Always be kind, as you never know when someone else is just having a bad day.

Surround yourself with people who inspire you – Try to be around people who encourage you to do your best. For anyone who tries to bring you down, don’t bother with them. Life is far to short to be chasing after people who couldn’t give you the time of day.

Maintain your strong opinions – I already see your opinions and I definitely want to hear them! Being opinionated means you can grow and learn new skills. That being said, you should always take the time to learn from other’s opinions as you can learn even more that way. Don’t ever let anyone tell you though your opinion doesn’t matter. 

You are growing up to be such a kind, inquisitive, and generous young lady. Don’t ever let the evils of the world take that away from you. When you see someone or something being wronged, speak up about it. You have the power to fight social injustices. Stand up for what you believe, as people do notice this. Never think less of yourself, as that just isn’t the way it is.

My hope for you as you walk through this journey of life, is that you have a strong sense of self. At the same time, always approach life with humility. Give life all you’ve got, as you only have one chance to live it. Most importantly, always love yourself. Cherish your mind, body, and heart. Don’t ever forget that you truly do deserve all the love in the world.

Love, 

Mommy

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